More lies, this time from the top, about the ‘SO-CALLED CARE’ of sexual abuse victims by the Catholic Church

If you care about something don’t you make it a priority in your life?  If you care about your relationship with God don’t you prioritize your time and actions to pray daily and follow God’s teachings especially in a world that teaches that what is clearly wrong, and against God, is right? The Church, from Pope Francis on down, seem to not give a hoot about the victims of sexual abuse.  Why do I say that? How do I say that?

A new article sent to me, from God-Know-Where, highlights that the pope is quietly lessoning sanctions for sex abusers, both sanctions already levied and new sanctions imposed.  The article states that it is the spirit of mercy.  What?  That is insane. Mercy has nothing to do with sanctions imposed on someone who both broke the law and went against God’s teachings.

For instance; what if I took a rubber hose with me to a penance service and started beating the pennatents with that hose. Would I be removed from my priestly duties by my bishop? Probably. Would I be accused of being unfit for the priesthood. Yes, and rightfully so.  Would those consequences be removed out of some misplaced sense of mercy? The people that I struck and physically injured not to mention psychologically and spiritually injured would be incensed that what happened to them was dismissed and they had no say in what happened to me after the rampage. Yes get me help because I need it, that is merciful, but don’t put me back in a position where I could injure people once again, that is not mercy  it is insanity.

Where is the mercy for the victims of sexual abuse at the hands of clergy? Yes get the abusers help because they truly need it, but to not do anything and then have the gall to call it mercy.  It is far from mercy it is cowardess. Worse than cowardess, it is re-traumatizing to victims…and not even the pope cares.  But if you are a young cleric in traditional clerical clothing you are excoriated in a homily. The application seems like a demonic application of mercy. It certainly isn’t a consistent one.


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More inaction by the Catholic Church on abuse

The Pontifical Commission for the Protection of Minors says Marie Collins quit Wednesday, voicing her “frustration” at the lack of cooperation from other Vatican offices.”

Really?  When did this whole sexual abuse issue within the Catholic first come to light? In 2003 when I was a transitional deacon that’s when.  Billions of dollars later, Pope Francis’s approval of his own commissions implementations and still nothing.  Frustrating? Yes!

More and more people have left the Church or refused to return to the Church because this scandal has never really been understood by so many priests.  Obviously, “other Vatican offices”,  who are not cooperating with The Pontifical Commission for the Protection of Minors still, after all of these years, do not understand the devastating impact of the priest sex scandal on both individuals and on the Church…the Bride of Christ.  People forget or deny that the moral authority of the Church comes from God.

The Republicans in the current administration in the USA talk of draining the swamp. Voting can help with that.  How come it is so difficult to drain the swamp that plagues the Church?  Is it because we do not vote?  I do not have a clue how Vatican offices function or are run but I know that in the real world if your office is slow to, or refuses to, implement the wishes of the CEO you are warned to do so asap or you are fired.

God would not agree that children, or anyone for that matter, should be abused.  So why is God being ignored?  I guess it becomes easier to ignore God on this issue when you ignore God on so many other issues, adultery, gay marriage, abortion, euthanasia.  And it seems to me that the Church is abandoning many of her teachings to be better ‘liked’ by the culture, the world wide culture of death. (Included in the culture of death is the promotion and disregard of sin.) Even most of the world wide culture of death frowns on child molestation and other abuses of power…most…

The continual cry for social justice is nothing but a red herring designed to take everyones’ minds off of the real issues that the Church cannot or should not support.  I have to ask, wouldn’t it be social justice to immpliment plans and strategies to aid those who already have been sexually abused and to prevent further abuse? Immigration is no were near as important as ignoring the Church’s beliefs especially on child molestation and abuse.

On reflection it really shouldn’t matter how Vatican offices function or who runs them.  They need to do what is right in the eyes of God.  That is not happening.

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Pope Francis and his abusive faux pas

I have let this ruminate for several days, making connections, searching for reasons based on my own story, telling myself over and over that EVERYONE has a back story and basically wrestling with what seems to be a hateful, hate filled homily given by our Holy Father regarding a young cleric that he knows nothing about, even if he thinks he does, basing a judgement on an outward fondness for traditional clerical clothing.

The first question that comes to my mind is what happened to, and when did it happen to, Pope Francis to make him so hostile to the outward appearance of a, “young”, cleric.  Who is it who dressed like that and hurt Pope Francis so deeply?  There has to be something bad in the history of the pontiff that caused his over-the-top reaction and subsequent homily. Merciful? No. Loving? Not really.  What is it that made Jorge Mario Bergoglio react that way, because it wasn’t a normal reaction?

And how does that effect the wider question of the Church and abuse?  Honestly if my abuser were more into clerical clothing and less into getting his rocks off I would have been safe. He was not and I was not.  When I look at what I call an over reaction on the pope’s part and what I would deem as a less than nice lashing out at some unfortunate cleric I see abuse.

What does that say to members of the hierarchy and the rest of the members of the Body of Christ?  Nothing good I’m afraid. Abusive language and behavior have been enshrined in the Church by the pope himself.  I really do not believe that was his intention but that is what I see.  As an individual who was abused physically by a cleric I take my backstory with me always. My own backstory of abuse is the filter I am using to measure the reaction of Pope Francis.

There are many people in the Church who have abuse as a backstory.  Some of us have the physical abuse that colors our perception of things. And there are people who have verbal abuse by a cleric or someone connected to the Church as their filter.  Both kinds of those abuses are also spiritual abuses…some categorize it as soul murder.

So I wonder if the young cleric in traditional clothing knows that it was him who was excoriated unjustly by the pope who does not know him from Adam in an over-the-top homily that got world wide attention?  That would be abuse that is soul murdering.   Is there any hope for those who have been abused by representatives of the Church when the leader of the Church adds to the deposit of hate?  I’m sad for all of us who have experienced abuse in the Church, it never seems that it will get any better.


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Getting tattooed is the marginally socially acceptable way to cut.

Since I couldn’t sleep last night I was pondering an e-mail I received from a non-priest friend of mine.  The e-mail was in reference to my latest tattoo, (I have seven, number four and number six combine to be one large tattoo on my back.) Why? I pondered that question.

Often times, when someone survives sexual abuse, they shut down in every way possible. This includes their, “feelings”.  In order to feel something many people who have been abused will, “cut”.  Cutting is a person’s very unhealthy way to feel something. Getting tattooed is the marginally socially acceptable way to cut.

But tattooing oneself has another purpose, some would go as far as to say benefit, it is a way to render yourself unattractive or untouchable to your abuser and any would-be abusers.  I would lay odds that a lot of the women you see that have radically changed their appearance through tattooing and body modification have been victimized by abuse.  There is a power that is reclaimed by rendering yourself untouchable to those who are like/in the same class as, the person who first perpetrated the abuse.

In my own case the tattoos that I have gotten are on my; butt (a spade), chest (angel), back/including lower back (The crucified Christ & the universe, and a heart with the phrase LOVE IS THE MEANING OF LIFE), bicep (fleur-de-lis representing the Virgin Mary),  and calf (a carpenters square and three Easter Lilies representing St. Joseph the Worker) .  All but the one on my butt have some connection with religion.  Since my abuser was a priest one would hope that the tattoos would render me verboten. (Of course his being a priest should have done that.)  None of this is conscious.  

One more thing that I think may have been influenced by my own abuse is my ileostomy.  After suffering with Crone’s Disease for 29 years and having pre-cancerous cells in my colon diagnosed twice in a three month span I was given three options.  Option one was to do nothing.  Option two was to have a bowel resection taking out the section of bowel with the pre-cancerous cells. Option three was the removal of my colon, rectum and anus.  I didn’t even have to think about it, I chose option number three.

Why? The two conscious reasons I made the choice that I did were; I would kick myself if I got colon cancer at a later date and not being married the two possible side effects, (incontinence & impotency), did not matter to me.  The possible unconscious reason is/was if I don’t have an anus I can’t be anally raped and impotency would mean I could not be betrayed by my body. 


Forget that at 51 I really don’t need to worry about this kind of thing anymore and even if the very slim possibility of rape and/or molestation happened to me I am now well equipped to fight back. That is my rational and conscious thought process.  Unconsciously there is obviously still some fear hence socially acceptable cutting, (tattoos), and no hesitation at all for the most radical colon surgery for pre-cancer. 

Molestation really does effect every aspect of the lives of survivors and apparently for a very long time.   

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Sad day in PA for sexual abuse survivors

Once again the Church, at least the church in Pennsylvania, has won in its ongoing fight against taking any responsibility for sexual abuse.  And once again they used lies and scare tactics to achieve their goal. The Pennsylvania State Senate successfully killed the bill that would allow for a change in the statute of limitations for sexual abuse.

The Catholic Church is not the only entity in the world guilty of harboring sexual abusers, they are, however, the only entity in the world who has God, (or should have God), as their moral center and the teachings of God as their moral compass.  And yet they lie, something God is incapable of doing, something that is anathema to God.

When trying to defend the indefensible the Church’s mantra has been; we have done a lot for the victims of sexual abuse.  Really…  What?  A healing mass performed by priests of the entity that first victimized and abused? Or perhaps paying for talk therapy for victims at the churches own mandated sites, (Still attempting to control a horrible situation that they gave birth to and nurtured for years.), ignoring all of the psychiatric studies that have stated that talk therapy is not effective in the attempt to heal/help trauma victims.  And lest you be confused, sexual abuse is traumatic.

After all of this the Church wonders why there are so many people that have left their ranks and ponder how to get them back.  The answer that the powers that be have come-up with is a new evangelization of the people. Here’s a news flash; that will not work. What will work? Taking responsibility for what you the Church has done, not just give it lip services, (the Church is good at that), THAT WOULD BE THE NEW EVANGILIZATION.


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The bishops of dioceses and archdioceses in Pennsylvania continuously lied to the faithful and to the world.

There are two things for all Roman Catholics to celebrate.  The first is the defining of sexual abuse issues and the mishandling of it by bishops is enough to have a bishop removed.

There has always been an area in Cannon Law that states that a bishop can be removed for negligence/incompetence but now Pope Francis has made the mishandling of sexual abuse cases a defined reason for removal. BRAVO, and why did it take so LONG!

The second thing is the passage of Bill 1947, in the Pennsylvania House of Representatives, that changes the time for bringing charges of sexual abuse to the law.  The statute of limitations is changed from a victim reaching his or her 18th birthday  to a victim reaching their 50th birthday.  The bill now goes to the Pennsylvania Senate.

The bill does not exclude venues outside of the Catholic Church as the Archbishop of Philadelphia has claimed publicly. It is not an anti-Catholic bill.

Let’s look at what is really anti-Catholic.  Molesting, sexually assaulting and raping are anti-Catholic. Hiding molestation, sexual assault and rape is anti-Catholic. Priests and bishops lying about molesters, sexual assaulters and rapists in their ranks is anti-Catholic. Blaming victims, lawyers and the press for bringing to light  molestation, sexual assault and rape is anti-Catholic.

Two sayings come to mind in all of this; God will bring everything done in the dark into the light. And the second, you reap what you sew. The bishops of dioceses and archdioceses in Pennsylvania continuously lied to the faithful and to the world. Since their eternal salvation is at stake you would think that they would be more humble…and stop lying.


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Lay men and women of Osorno

The Church still doesn’t grasp the depth to which the clergy sexual scandal has infiltrated the souls of the people of faith.

A bishop, and sadly it does not matter if he is innocent or not, the perception in this case is the reality. The perception is that the bishop was involved in covering-up a sexually abusive priest. Of course I am referring to  Bishop Juan de la Cruz Barros of the diocese of Osorno in the country of Chile.

How is it that I conclude that the Church still doesn’t grasp the depth of the pain of the people? The Holy Father, Pope Francis says incendiary things like, “foolishness”, and the Church in Chile has, “lost its head” in discussing the protests that have taken place several times in the cathedral in Osorno.

Pope Francis also blames the, “leftists”,  in the current socialist government for stirring up the controversy and that may be true.  The key issue that the Church always seems to forget is that if there was never a clergy sexual, some say homosexual, scandal, then there could never be anything; leftist, news papers, movies, reporters, (and bloggers for that mater),  could say against the Church or the hierarchy.

If I was accused I do not know how I would react. If cleared of the charges and still protested against I am sure it would make me very angry. Hopefully I would also understand that my presence among the people could be a disruptive one, as it is in Osorno.  Since the goal of all of us should be heaven and my presence, whether or not I have been exonerated, is causing strife then the humble thing to do would be to  resign and quietly take another position. Of course that is easier said than done. A page needs to be taken from St. Pius of Pietrelcina, and St. Mary Helen MacKillop.

Name calling and speculation on the reasons for the protests do in no way heal the still opened wounds of the people in Chile.

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