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About follow1in3

I am a Roman Catholic priest ordained for the Diocese of Wilmington, DE who is also a victim of clergy sexual abuse. I am often angered by the insensitiviy and hostility of other clergy, the hierarchy and the so-called people-of-God. If clergy, bishops included, really and truly understood abuse, (any kind of abuse), I would not feel the need to blog on occasion. It is very frustraing.

Money loving bishops are not the truth. Jesus is truth.


Let me start by saying that I have mulled this since the death of my sister. When that happened, of course, my brother-in-law was distraught. As families often do when we were gathered together planning the funeral we talked. My … Continue reading

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Mental illness does not disqualify you from sainthood


St. Augustine, St. Flora of Beaulieu, St. Ignatius of Loyola,  St. Jane Frances de Chantal,  St. Noel Chabanel, St. Elizabeth Ann Seton, St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross (Edith Stein), these are just some of the canonized saints who suffered … Continue reading

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Naked in the locker room


I’ve done this once and poof it went away. So I’ll try again. One of the things I do, not only as a Catholic Christian but more importantly as a priest, is pray. Sometimes God gives me an insight into … Continue reading

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Pope Francis, Vatican bureaucracy, McCarrick, and the Wales clergy sexual abuse report


How long has Pope Francis been in office? Pope Francis pledges to end sexual abuse after McCarrick report, so screamed one headline. Am I dreaming or have we heard about the pope’s concern before. I vaguely recollect him putting together … Continue reading

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PTSD has chosen me


After all these years of thinking something was seriously wrong with me because I have great difficulty trusting people or wonder what there ulterior motives are when they are interacting with me I have an answer. Now I know that … Continue reading

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Fratelli Tutti remember St. Paul; “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today and forever. Do not be carried away by all kinds of strange teaching.”


Fratelli Tutti, (Brothers All), talks about everyone getting along in this world despite our differences, a sort of man made Shangri-La. Lets forget for a moment about the division in our country, the riots, the looting the property destruction. Those … Continue reading

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I love the Church, not so much the men in love with money who run it, not so much the weak bishops and weak priests who seem to have abandoned her, not so much the faithless but the Church


Doing soul searching during the Wuhan Virus many things have come to the forefront of my thoughts. I am not a soldier, (actually I am for God), and have never fought in an armed conflict or in a war yet … Continue reading

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acceptably cut


The feeling, (not overwhelming), to acceptably cut by getting a tattoo is once again washing over me. I must ask myself why now? Why all of a sudden? Something must have triggered me. What though? I think I figured it … Continue reading

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What is going on with the Theodor McCarrick case?


Ugh! What is going on with the Theodor McCarrick case? I did wonder in this blog if his case signaled real change in the Church in dealing with homosexual acting out or if he was just the sacrificial lamb to … Continue reading

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Insight: part III


The most significant thing that happened to me on my third attempt at priesthood was the Boston Archdiocese clerical sex abuse scandal. I was a transitional deacon at that time. Being in the seminary at that time was surreal. With … Continue reading

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