Wrong

What is wrong with people? Why would you offer to perform oral sex on a person that you just met, someone that you don’t even know? Are you that in need of money that you are willing to debase yourself. (I’m assuming that he would have wanted some kind of monetary compensation.) Did I mention that I’m poor? I thought maybe he had been in prison and that’s the way things work there. Regardless, it was at the very least inappropriate.

That’s what it seems the world has come too at least when dealing with priests. How many people would have jumped at that offer? How many priests would have? Isn’t that a sad commentary on society and on the priesthood that someone would even say that out loud to a priest. Is it because of the long history of sexual abuse? And all priests getting painted with that broad brush of being sexually active is unwelcome and untrue.

When making the promise at Deaconate Ordination to forgo marriage and knowing the Church’s teaching on sexual expression outside of a sacramental marriage why and how could a priest acquiesce to such a proposition? Prayer, fasting, spiritual reading are supposed to be what it is we are about. We are in the world not of the world. Carnal desires and worldly wants are things we need to constantly battle. The more that is given to you, like ordination, the more that is expected from you. Falling is not an option, fighting the enemy is necessary. It’s not easy but it is easier when living the life a priest promises to live.

That was the important part of my last blog. Some people have chosen to focus on the salatious aspects of my the blog and got so wrapped up in the trees that they missed the forest. And the ignoring of the meat of the blog seems to have been mostly done by clergy.

What year is it now? Here is a headline taken from a news website today, October 16, 2022; Chicago priest Father Michael Pfleger facing new sexual abuse allegations, that is what should be the biggest concern in the Catholic Church. New allegations means there are other older allegations. It doesn’t seem like it’s ever going to end. If a priest is proven innocent of abuse charges I support him. I know how bad it is being the abused living with it is a nightmare being falsely accused must be a nightmare too. Not being believed and listened too is isolating and is frustrating.

I remember a time not very long ago when the word ‘transparency’ was all the rage in the Church. Too bad it meant almost nothing. The word transparency has been replaced by two words, dialogue and accompaniment. Well here is the dialogue; ‘God is right and you are wrong.’ , and, ‘unless lives change and conform to scripture and tradition then the accompaniment will be to hell.’ It is true that God will take us where we are but does not want us to stay there. God want’s us to grow in holiness as we travel the spiritual road to him not to grow in sin. Again it is about the salvation of souls and the people who should care don’t seem too.

About follow1in3

I am a Roman Catholic priest ordained for the Diocese of Wilmington, DE who is also a victim of clergy sexual abuse. I am often angered by the insensitiviy and hostility of other clergy, the hierarchy and the so-called people-of-God. If clergy, bishops included, really and truly understood abuse, (any kind of abuse), I would not feel the need to blog on occasion. It is very frustraing.
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