‘How is it loving to attack abuse victims/survivors?’

I am struggling with an issue related to the clergy sexual abuse scandal.  There are many people who came forward in regards to their own sexual abuse at the hands of clergy members.  Is it a lie of omission for a bishop and the bishops staff and legal advisers to not make public, not even to clergy, the fact that the overwhelming number of abuse allegations brought forward in a diocese were substantiated?   Knowing that would certainly make a difference in the perspective of the Church, (clergy and the people), in how they react.

Names are not important, nor are ages of those molested or even how long ago it was done.  Just the knowledge that there has not been a rush to get money by outlandish and false accusations should be known to the faithful.  People who have not been molested may still have trouble because they do not understand that molestation makes an indelible mark in a person that effects every aspect of their life and being.  Five years or 70 years does not matter…truth has no expiration date…truth matters and bringing sin to God’s light matters…time is the only thing that doesn’t matter when reporting or dealing with abuse.  We have to ask ourselves; ‘How is it loving to attack abuse victims/survivors?’  

About follow1in3

I am a Roman Catholic priest ordained for the Diocese of Wilmington, DE who is also a victim of clergy sexual abuse. I am often angered by the insensitiviy and hostility of other clergy, the hierarchy and the so-called people-of-God. If clergy, bishops included, really and truly understood abuse, (any kind of abuse), I would not feel the need to blog on occasion. It is very frustraing.
This entry was posted in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink.

1 Response to ‘How is it loving to attack abuse victims/survivors?’

  1. Cathy Lins says:

    Its called denial.

    It hurts to face the truth about what has happened. So they try to make it go away. Be not true.

    It hurts one’s sense of trust to have been so deceived. And by people who are suppose to be your brothers in faith.

    The press and the official book on the Vatican Conference on Clergy Abuse reports:
    Monsignor Stephen Rossetti, (the USCCB’s own expert) a psychologist who for a decade ran a U.S. treatment center for abusive priests, told the conference Tuesday that just like alcoholics or drug addicts, sexually abusive priests often lie when confronted with allegations. They manipulate, they con, they deny. There are false allegations to be sure, and it’s critical to restore a priest’s good name when he has been cleared, Rossetti said in his prepared remarks. But decades of experience tell us that the vast majority of allegations, over 95 percent are founded.
    Read more: http://www.azcentral.com/news/articles/2012/02/07/20120207bishops-told-pedophile-priests-lie-listen-victims.html#ixzz2OfsrF6Lc

    Yet – let someone off the cuff from the Catholic League say – hey, at least 30% of accusations are false; and Bishops and priests jump on that and repeat it as gospel.

    I have had multiple priests tell me this 30% number is true. I researched the source and they haven’t got a leg to stand on.

    I was told by one – we’re just trying to clarify. He couldn’t even face that he was trying to “spin” the truth.

    I was reading a book the other day that said – the truth is simple. Anything more elaborate than that is the work of the evil one.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s